A few weeks after my mom was diagnosed with her illness i happen to have a little bad moment at the end of my work day. this lady who happen to be there was trying to comfort me by (we never really called us buds, we just never really cared for each-other all the time haha) hugged me and looked into my eyes and told me " You are not strong enough to deal with this, you are a weak person." As she is telling me this, she is hugging me and doing the let me comfort you thing, let me play with your hair. At the time I was obviously needing a hug from somebody and obviously didn't care from who and wasn't grasping on to the words spilling out of her mouth.
After a day or two went by I really started to think about the words that came from her mouth, they began to have such a sour taste. Those words really came from a person that has had so many trials in her own life. I was floored.
I went into hermit mode, I tried to not those words get to me but they were in the back of mind constantly. I didn't want to talk to anyone and I just felt bitter, especially towards this person.
Luckily, this lasted about a minute, because of the person I am, I also observe people and things like a weirdo. i started to watch her body language especially when she spoke about the trials she has gone through in her life, it was always during an opportunity to compare herself to another person, she always had to be the one dealing with everything better than another or she always was on top of her game compared to whomever so and so.. blah blah blah
all of a suddenly light bulb flashed on!
! Hello!! Where have you been little light!
I needed you along time ago!
This lady was full of shit! How dare her!
Nobody in my life has ever told me I am "weak."
since the age on 9 years old, my mom has always told me i am one strong little lady
and it has been planted in my brain ever since.
Although I break down at times,
I know I am strong enough to deal with anything that comes my way.
I don't need to be validated by anyone, either.
I realized how bitter she is about life, and if someone shows weakness around her you can see her energy just ready to suck the life out of someone.
Like a vampire!!!
It was insane!
I then started to watch the people she was best buds with and they all had the same thing in common, her being the worst of them all. (In my opinion) ((I wish I would of noticed this along time ago because I had prior incidents with all this ladies)) and I dismissed myself from their energy, I was totally done and over it.
After my light bulb saga I felt so so much better about myself, and I pitied her.
I am like my mother when it comes to being emotional, i believe it shows how compassionate we are for other people and life in general and I am not ashamed of it, at all. I am very emotionally attached to anything in my life including people I barely meet. If you show an ounce of kindness in my direction I am all about you and your friendship, to some this might make me a weak person to others maybe not.
Regardless of all the trials I have been challenged with in my life, believe it or not there is some horrible ones. I never sit and compare and belittle another-just because it wasn't as "awful" as mine.
Long story short, don't compare your life to another's. no good will ever come out of it, you are not that person. You are you. Wether it's relationships, trials and/or accomplishments.
When people say you never really know a man until you walk a mile in their shoes. I say walk two and you might get a better start as to why a person believes in what they do feels what the feel and why they choose to do what they do.
It's true, so very true.